HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! You may have already set your goals or resolutions for 2018, regardless I encourage you to read on anyway for some food for thought.
Top New Year’s Resolutions
These may sound familiar: to lose weight, save money, enjoy life, spend more time with family and friends, get organized, break a bad habit, eat better, sleep more, travel more, etc. Sometimes we even make the same New Year’s statements year after year after year. What is stopping us from achieving our goals? When we make these stand up announcements, we believe that they will just happen magically without anything else changing. Unfortunately, it’s not quite that simple.
The Question Waterfall
Let’s take a closer look. We make some grandiose statement that usually answers the main following question:
What do I want to accomplish?
Then we leave it at that. We boldly claim this as our goal and off we go. In actuality there is a waterfall of underlying questions that also need to be considered if we want to find success.
How would you go about doing that?
How much time would that take?
Where are you willing to take that time that you need from?
How much will it cost, this could be financial or otherwise?
What are you willing to decrease spending on or change to pay for this?
Common Resolution Example
I want to lose weight! Well, I guess that would mean I need to eat better or eat less and probably exercise more. Wow, that seems like a daily life adjustment when you really think about it. Does this mean no more weekly happy hour drinks and appetizers with my friends? What about Friday Donut Day at work? The list goes on.
Truth be told, you may not have to completely give up your habits and buy a costly gym membership to accomplish this goal, however, it will take some serious consideration and planning on your part. And that my friends is where we tend to go wrong. The follow through. You can still go to happy hour but maybe you change your typical order. To avoid donut Friday at work you could go to the gym at that time. Even small changes like parking further away and using the stairs instead of the elevator will add up over time. No matter what though, there needs to be a plan!
All Hope is Not Lost
I am not saying that you cannot achieve your goals, I just want to outline why I feel that we make these grandiose statements that quickly fade into the night. Clearly the resolution that you came up with is something you care about and would like to happen in your life, but you did not consider the ripple effect it would cause in your life. After careful consideration you may decide the tradeoff is not worth it or that it is SO WORTH IT! The decision is yours alone.
How to Find Freedom
In my life delving deeper and deeper into minimalism, frugality, and mindfulness a lot of space has opened up and it becomes easier and easier to move towards my real goals. That being said, it can still be a difficult transition to peel away all of the excess. Not all of what gets removed is inherently bad. However, it may not be worth it overall in the grand scheme of what you want to really accomplish to keep certain things in your life.
Here are some other ways that I suggest approaching the blank slate of the New Year:
Daily journaling may be a helpful and insightful way to sort through your life and feelings. This alone is a big commitment, yet I have found it to be an indispensable tool in sorting through where I am now and where I would like to be.
Getting rid of the old instead of piling on more new. Schedules tend to be jam packed to the point of exhaustion with no room to breathe, let alone think. Instead of giving yourself more things to accomplish, try getting rid of some of the things in your life that are weighing you down. These could be commitments or tangible things or spending habits.
Choose a word or mantra to live by for the year. Let that be your guide in the New Year. Some that come to mind are: “Health” “Calm” “Well-Being” Self-Care” etc. Everyday use that word or mantra to aid in all of your decisions. For example if you word is health, maybe you order water instead of a sugar beverage for a change.
Frame the year in a different light: What do I want to look back on and have accomplished in 2018? Imagine yourself snuggled up in December 2018 and going through the questions in last week’s post but only answering them about the previous year. What do you want it to look like?
I would love to hear your thoughts on this! What intentions are you setting for 2018?